After listing a few things the priest stopped me, "You have depression, don't you." "Haha... yes." Was my reply. He started asking me what things I did to cheer myself up. I told him, he approved. I continued with my confession and after starting yet another thing "I don't push myself enough to..." he stopped me again. He told me I need to stop holding myself to such high standards, that I have depression, that "It's not your job to hold yourself together and fix yourself. It's God's." *Cue tears.*
He ended confession with a cute little "Only listen to joyful music! Don't listen to anymore Blues." =) sweetheart. I thanked him, scurried back to a pew, and immediately threw my head down into my arms. *Cue more tears.* The priest was telling me I have to allow God to "fight for me" to "win my battles". This is so, so hard for me. I always feel the need to earn love from everybody and I get so uncomfortable not earning what is given to me. The concept of God saying "Here. Rest. Let me fight for you." crushed my heart and blew my mind. These are things I "know" but always brush off. To have a priest tell me I was being to hard on myself was a huge shock. I know it's from pride that I "need" to be the strong one who isn't rescued. I know my sin and so can't comprehend being pampered or fought for by the One to whom I already owe so much. I struggle to accept unearned love, but what other kind is there?
I have a cheesy little metaphor. Imagine a guy going into the gym to do some bench presses. Now, this dude thinks he's just the best thing ever, so he brushes off any offer for a spotter. Pridefully he adds more and more weight ever shouting down offers of help from other and eventually -- to make the metaphor complete -- he puts on more weight than he can lift and down comes the weighted bar and crushes him. Big mess, lots of pain, and a pretty stupid way to die. Just so, I get so prideful and desirous of being strong that I add on more, and more, until I simply cannot do it anymore.
My worth is not mine to determine. It is. God is not mine do deem protector, He is. As much as I cringe at saying "You are my protector" it is truth. And all I can do is neglect it to my downfall or accept what is.
As I write this everything with in my screams "spoiled! spoiled! spoiled brat! You think you can claim to be loved and protected?" God is pure goodness. Pure goodness desires others to delight in it. He wants us to delight in Him. And that requires accepting truths about who He is and His relation to us.